I came across this blog post about Kali, the Dark Mother, in relationship to the election.
“Darkness heals us without a spoonful of sugar; the wound is the gift…”
I’m writing in a cafe. I come here because my writing buddy, a mother of three young children, lives nearby. It’s a fine place, but the music is often sappy. Most of us learned about love as a sentimental, what’s-in-it-for-me fantasy that inevitably disappoints big time. There are many ways to be initiated into truer forms of love. For my part, it came through becoming a mother, and finding that love and pleasure are sometimes two very different things, and that love will take us to the underworld where our illusions are burned away, and that through that painful initiation we become truer human beings. There is nothing like a mother’s love, though for many people in this traumatized world, that love can be obscured or distorted in painful ways.
Kali. When I was a younger woman, I rode a motorcycle that I named Shiva, so that I could be Kali riding Shiva. Younger, more playful times. Many women in the US were attracted to Kali because she seemed a way to sacralize our anger. People with a better understanding of Kali called us out on appropriating a wrathful goddess for our own individualistic anger. But devotion is devotion, however undeveloped it may be, and I think Kali knows we want her medicine, however immature the expressions of our love for Her.
It is said that Kali loves an “all or nothing attitude” which has stayed with me for decades. Sometimes I don’t want to offer “all” but I don’t want to offer “nothing” either. Kali’s preference is like Christ’s admonishment in the Book of Revelation, “I know your deeds; you are neither cold nor hot. How I wish you were one or the other. So because you are lukewarm — neither hot nor cold — I will spit you out of My mouth.” They both urge us to sacred passion.
“All or nothing” takes us back to the Great Gamble and our apocalyptic times. What can you give your “all” to? We have a president-elect who is a take-all for his never-ending wounded narcissism, though a healthy leader of the people would be on the give, not on the take. What is the all that you have to give at this time when we have elected a wounded child to be the most powerful man in the world?